Sorry, this post isn’t book related. I’ve had ‘name-calling’ on my mind for a while but specifically for the last several weeks and today I reached my breaking point.
Several weeks ago I was walking a property with a customer. As she and I turned a corner in the backyard, one of the neighbors came up to his fence and started yelling at her. He was upset about, what I considered, several inconsequential things. But, if he feels he needs to address something with his neighbor, fine. I wasn’t a fan of his tone but my customer didn’t let it bother her so I ignored it. THEN…now keep in mind that to this point she had not responded to him at all and had listened calmly…he called her a “fat assed bitch” among a few other choice words and told her not to give him that look. He walked away muttering. Some people may think I’m naive but I didn’t grow up in a world where men talked to women that way so it took me a few seconds to even process what had just happened. My customer then turned to me and said that it was the first time they had ever spoken. She was fine with moving on but I was shaken. It wasn’t directed at me but I felt dirty having even witnessed it.
On social media we see name calling every day as a normal course of action. How sad is it that we consider that “normal” now? Yesterday Twitter exploded with racist and misogynist attacks on Leslie Jones, one of the stars of the new Ghostbusters films. She was called horrid names that I won’t repeat…because people either didn’t like the movie or didn’t think it should have been remade with female leads. Are you kidding me? Male stars do not have to deal with this level of idiocy. What has happened in our world that allows someone sitting at a keyboard to think it’s okay to talk that way to women? (Notice that I didn’t say “some man”. Some of the worst attacks on women come from other women which is another topic in itself.)
I’ve been clear that I hate politics and pretty much all politicians (there are exceptions where I see someone actually trying to do good but they are too few and too far between.) Rather than debating issues, most of politics is now “I’m better than him/her” or just name calling. Regularly, Hillary Clinton is called “Killary” on Facebook along with the old standards, bitch and c***. Even more disturbing is the regular use of derogatory terms basically calling her a lesbian. This is supposedly from ultra-conservatives who preach love and peace. Really? I’m sorry but Jesus isn’t okay with this. I don’t remember the passage in Matthew, Mark, Luke or John that said it’s okay to call someone a c*** because you don’t like their politics.
Today the internet is abuzz about Melania Trump. Again, I don’t care if you agree or disagree with her or her husband. But, she is a human being. And a woman. A mother! She has been called every name in the dictionary that could be an insult to women. All of them are disturbing. But you know what bothered me the most? “Mail order bride”. This gem is supposedly coming from liberals who preach that woman are equal and should be treated with respect. Is that only when they agree with you? Because I don’t think this is treating her with respect. Criticize her speech, her politics or her choice in spouse. But calling an immigrant who has come to this country a mail order bride and making fun of her accent is the height of hypocrisy.
If the best you can do when communicating with someone is to call them a name, then you might want to reconsider your argument. We need to get back to having serious discussions and not act like chimps throwing poop at each other.